One of the more saddening concepts I had to learn, while dealing with people who experience emotional distress… is that people who have suffered from abuse, will try to “prove” themselves to be the monsters they fear they are, and I believe it to be their way of warning others. I’ve noticed a similar concept when dealing with trolls, they have a very specific pattern to the imagery they’ll use, to the way that they’ll talk… to their arguing style.
It makes it frustrating to deal with people, because despite the fact that they might be nice, or have the potential for good… they amplify their bad tendencies, because they believe those tendencies will be the cause of frustrations in the future… when in-fact the only frustration, is dealing with the warning signs they seem to put up.
I haven’t really met many people who can’t handle talking through an issue.